When I first stumbled upon Mariama Lockington's personal essay, "What a Black Woman Wishes Her Adoptive White Parents Knew," I felt an instant connection with her. I remember reading the essay, nodding at all the things that I could relate to as a transracial adoptee. "Yes," I murmured under my breath, "This is so good." … Continue reading For Black Girls Like Me: A Conversation with Mariama Lockington
Last week I flew to Minneapolis to present at my second KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network) Conference. Leading up to the conference, I had been preparing presentations with Shaaren Pine and Grace Newton. In my first presentation, "Body Betrayal" with Shaaren, we talked about our bodies and growing up with brown skin in … Continue reading Christianity and International Adoption
A year ago today, I clicked “publish” on my first blog post. As I’ve told others, I started the blog as a New Year’s goal. For the past few years, I've always put “publish my writing” as a goal, but I would never get around to doing anything about it. Work kept me busy. My … Continue reading A Year of Stories
Marlyse and her husband’s adoption story began when Marlyse faced the fact that she would not be able to carry a child due to her heart defect. When it came time to choose where they were going to adopt from, they started by looking into domestic infant adoption, but they were surprised at the astronomical … Continue reading Tell Me Your Story: Of Letting Go
Split at the Root by Catana Tully is a memoir that spans many years and several different countries. Catana was born in Guatemala in the 1940s and was adopted by a German family. Her German mother, or “Mutti” as she called her, raised Catana to speak German, Spanish, and English and introduced her to a world … Continue reading Split at the Root: A Conversation with Catana Tully
This simple question is usually meant to start small talk or find out if you have something in common with a stranger, but for many adoptees, including myself, this question is anything but simple. I grew up in Canada and being a part of a visible minority, it seemed as if people felt they had … Continue reading Where Are You From?
When children are adopted from developing countries, they often grow up feeling they have an obligation to give back to their countries or at least help those who are less fortunate. There is often a feeling of being “saved” from poverty or another equally dire situation and having an obligation to pay back a debt. … Continue reading Tell Me Your Story: Of Adoption & Service